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Quick Thought: Love...There Are No Guarantees

11:35 PM

One of my favorite movies is All About You. It follows a woman named Niki who is more in love with a man than he is with her. He eventually breaks up with her, and she is forced to take a step back professionally and personally, and move back in with her old roommate who just so happens to be her ex's cousin. She later falls for a guy who turns out to be her ex and roommate's cousin. This is a really complicated storyline now that I think about it. Anyway, as the two grow closer, they have a small conversation that goes like this:

"It's pretty daunting to give your all to someone, who doesn't want it."

"What will it take?"

"For what?"

"To try again."

"Assurance, I mean an escape clause. A one hundred percent money back guarantee if you will. I need to know, that I know, that I know."

"That's no fun. You have to leave room for the surprises."

Do you really? I understand her feeling like she needs assurance more than I understand his statement about leaving room for surprises. Nobody wants the surprise of things ending in their relationship, or saying I love you and being met with silence. Giving your all to someone who doesn't want it, like she said, is daunting, but it's also soul crushing. 

I've been thinking a lot about love lately. I remember what I felt when I was in it, but I also remember the lasting affects when it was over and done. I once wrote about the lessons learned from each relationship that I've been in, and about how I had some of the highest highs and the lowest lows. There was some good and bad in each relationship. I carry both with me even to this day. The fact that I carry them might just be the reason that I am not in a relationship now.

So maybe we should leave room for the surprises in order to try love again, but if you're like me, you don't like surprises. I, like Niki, need to know that I know, that I know.

Unfortunately, in life, there are no guarantees.

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